"Hey baby, how are you? How was your day? What did you do today? What good thing(s) did you do? What bad thing(s) did you do?"
These are some of the questions i ask my children every single day.
I start off with general questions to get a feeling of their mood and state of mind. If your children are like mine, they would ideally always reply "fine".
The second part of the questions are more specific. I ask them about the good things they have done to ensure that they appreciate that, irrespective of the challenges they experience in a day, there is always room to be kind to others. I also ask them about the bad things they did to call to mind their wrong doings and shape their attitude. This is in line with a Catholic prayer that reminds us that sinning happens not only in our thoughts and mind, but also in what we have done and failed to do.
In an era of phones, internet and all type of distractions, this method happens to be one of the ways I use to reinforce my love for my children, by having candid discussions, without judgment.
My husband and i use other additional methods to ensure that they continuously open up to us, as we understand that the foundation of a child begins and is reinforced at home. So below some few points we use which i hope would be beneficial to you.

1) Conversation openers: I pay extreme attention to conversation openers because there is always more than meet the eyes. At one point in time, we had numerous deaths in the family, when, months later, when i was making dinner, my first daughter asked in a very casual manner whether "children could also die," . Unexpected, I quickly understood that she had been affected by the deaths and has had questions about its meaning. A simple question ended up being a 1hr discussion between the children and I.

2) Listening: as a counsellor I sometimes have to be extra cautious to listen rather than give quick advices. When i speak to clients, it goes without saying and comes rather easily, not so much with family. Learning to genuinely listen to your children, understand their context and more so, appreciate the fact that their brains are not as developed as yours, so they may say things that make no sense to you is important in encouraging them to open up and shaping them.

3) No size fits all: i have 4 adorable children who have such different personalities. While one of them is an introvert, smiles and laughs often and for no reason, breaks everything in the house and wants to please mummy, the other is an extrovert, whose mood changes quite often especially when you point out the mistakes, will definitely not laugh for no reason but cares so much about the feeling of people and helping others. They all have their strengths, weaknesses, ways of communicating and define love differently. As a parent, i have learnt that the methods i use for one child will definitely not work on the other. And so, i have had to learn to be flexible to ensure that they open up.

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4) My village: oblivious to the fact that a time will come when my children would rather speak to someone else but me or their dad, i ensure that they are surrounded by people who share similar values with us- be it the house managers or my friends. These people call and meet my kids often and discuss things relating to life. Last year, when i had gone on a trip, my kids spoke to two of their "village members" regarding something that was bothering them. They both spoke to me about it which gave me ample time to prepare and reflect before engaging my children. The conversation went very well because my village handled it as i would have.

Obviously they are many other methods i use to create a good environment where my children can open up freely- from the weekly dates we have, the games we play at home, the family time we spend and more so, the private time they have with their dads which they equally love. This is by no means an exhaustive list. How do you encourage your child to open up?